Promises.

It's not the big bombastic promises you make in life that matter. It's the small things you do for the people you love.

You promise big things to your mum saying I'll buy you a saree, a house, a car, a driver but have ever gone and tried to understand what's there in her heart? What she miss? What does she want?
    All she wants is her son to lie in her lap and ask her to sing him a lullaby. All she wants is for him to talk to her everyday for a while so that she can share everything out. All that she wants is simple attention and care to prove you're there.

You promise your dad that you will join his business. You will take it multifold. You will grow with him. But all he wants is to see you independent.  He wants to see you take responsibilities for all your actions and people around you. People important to you. He wishes to be your protector when you fall. But all you do is tell him he is poky and intruding your space and freedom.

When we fail and fall we do get up because we are strong independent egoistic people. But the path of getting up becomes more painful because the people we need as support are missing. The experience of your dad and the warmth of your mom is missing. You start regretting, feel guilty and then one fine day you snap. Woosh.

Rather than regretting later have a balance and listen to them now and convince them about your actions. They have gone through the same phase as ours.  They will understand.

You promise the moon and the stars to the one you love. But can you actually get them? No. You promise all materialistic things from flowers to chocolates to cars to bikes but do you Care when they are hurt? When they are angry? Do you try to understand the feeling they are going through? No. You get more agitated on them and end up screwing matters even more. They feel alienated. Just staying there and asking them what it is matters the most. Your advice is not as valuable as your patience and you listening capability to their problems.

Loving someone is not having them for you always. It's about you helping them grow. But the growth should not be one sided. Both the halves should give enough attention and priority to the other that they grow. Anything that changes the priority ruins the relationship.
Physical intimacy, freedom, space are all superficial things. So are jealousy, possessiveness. If two people love each other genuinely they will not leave any stone unturned to make the other half secure. They will leave no place for any superficial thing to creep in the two. Their lives will be open books growing from page to page.

But I guess we have forgotten the words patience and sacrifice.  We want everything for us. Our happiness, our feelings, everything. Happiness is in looking at your other smiling and knowing it's because of you. Because of your attention and care. And not because of ROSES.

Satisfaction and happiness are the only feelings needed to reach Nirvana.
I have promises to keep and miles to go before I sleep.

But why do keep and make promises? Only to break them.
Walking miles together with the people you love without making promises is the only solution to a journey called life.